. And though my parents were Reform Jews still their general approach to religion was that it is לאו דווקא not really the most urgent thing in the world. More or less their approach was to be self sufficient to be  a mensch to act right and morally in all situations. To stay away from all and every kind of religious fanaticism. To marry a nice Jewish girl.

That is there were things to my parents that was most necessary and things that were simply good but not obligatory. Learning and keeping Torah was certainly considered good and great but not in the way of the religious.  It is rather desirable as long as it does not interfere with simple menschlichkeit..